ASD with a G and T
By Lisa Loyd | Published on December 2, 2020 | 5 Minute Read
I am a very proud mum of two with autism. My son Finley was born and I knew from the start he was born to be different. He came into the world pretty annoyed and fed up with everything and with time, we learnt what he likes and what can trigger a meltdown. We thought we had it pretty sorted, and then Poppy came along.
As the flapping of hands, tip toe walking and lack of speech started, we thought here we go again! And had to begin learning everything from new as they are complete opposites to each other.
One hates going out, one hates staying in. One can't stop eating and the other lives off of air! One hates to be touched and the other cuddles until it squeezes the life out of you.
Our journey has been hard at times, there have been many tears from the children and myself. In the beginning I couldn't help but compare them to others and wonder why they were not coping, why were they not reading yet? Why did they hate parties? And sleep!!! Why did they not like sleep? I swear if another person told me how well their child was sleeping, I would have hit them across the face with a wet nappy!
"There has also been the joy of having unique children that see the world in a completely different way from us, children that don't understand to lie, children that love with all their heart."
Over time I have understood to let these things go. They will get there when they are good and ready.
There has also been the joy of having unique children that see the world in a completely different way from us, children that don't understand to lie, children that love with all their heart.
They tell you what they think and I have learnt to not be embarrassed anymore. They will tell a stranger that mum has hairy legs and they will tell someone if they smell, I have to admit I do cringe sometimes.
They also still don't understand the concept of hide and seek and will shout 'I'm behind the curtain' the second you walk into the room.
They are the loudest people I know, who also hate loud noises. When you first receive the diagnosis, it can feel scary and lonely, and it will change you. But I promise, it changes you for the better.
I no longer apologise for them, I no longer see people that don't accept them as they are. I am stronger now than I ever have been and this is all because of them. People may think that I teach them but actually it's the other way round. They have taught me to have more patience, to appreciate the little things more and mostly to never try to fit in, we will always stand out and I am proud that we do.
Lisa Loyd
About the Author
Lisa Loyd
Hi, I’m Lisa. The face behind ASD with a G and T. I work part time, but by far my hardest job is looking after my two children, Finley and Poppy, both diagnosed with autism.
Check out Lisa's blog at https://asdwithagandt.com/